The Long Goodbye : Dementia Caregiving & Other Stories

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Revealing 25 Surprising & Fun Ways To Grieve After Mom Dies
A post-menopausal orphan's bucket list of sorts.
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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I'm Not Mother Theresa
I'm a sober daughter, a work in progress trying to do the next right thing.
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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Presenting a (not particularly) Scientific Argument on the Concept of Wandering Dementia™.
Not to be confused with dementia wandering, an annoyance of a different color entirely.
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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Five Little Piggies, Mom, God, Death & the Big Bang
She kept asking for a gun, so I got her one. Got one for myself too, while I was at it.
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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"I'll be Right Back" Means I Love You
Her smile breaks me, then it heals me.
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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"You're so Lucky. You love your mother...."
She may live forever. What if I didn't?
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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Do I Keep Feeding the Empty Shell of my Mother?
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My Neighbor Collapsed
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Recognizing Trauma Responses: A Lesson in Compassion
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Shove This In Your Pie Hole...
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The Bloods, Part I
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This. That. And Me.

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The Challenge Of Understanding A Life I Can't Remember
I triangulate befores & afters from evidence of a life, but I'm more Yin/Yang than that.
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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Finding The Secrets I Kept From Myself
Having blindly rewritten my own history to hide evidence of vulnerability, I don't know who I am. I'm an evidence-based archeological dig of dinosaur…
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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All of Me, Why Not Take All of Me?
Or at least help me figure out where some of me belongs. I've been feeling split, compartmentalized by having two disparate publications, both with a…
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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Why I Didn't Vaccinate, Why I Started & Why I'll Stop Again.
There are too many people in the world theater & a finite amount of popcorn. Don't get me started on the toilet paper situation. I advocate for less…
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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I Haven't Lost My Mind, Yet. Here's Why
A friend once said "Life isn't fair, you get what you get. What you do with it is the measure of your character." I miss him, and I get it. What I did…
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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What Happens to Me When Mom Dies?
A friend asked about my immediate plans for after Mom dies. It doesn’t seem like she ever will, but it got me thinking, what are my plans?
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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In a World Where I've Never Been Born...
At least two people would have had very different, perhaps better, lives
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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A Misspent Youth, My History in Therapy, & How I Came to Have Eleven Brassieres.
It's hard to ask for & accept help. Sometimes, the hardest part is just realizing I need help. I have a blind spot when it comes to stress—I always…
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