It's hard to ask for & accept help. Sometimes, the hardest part is just realizing I need help. I have a blind spot when it comes to stress—I always think I'm handling things just fine...right up until my life becomes a three-car accident. Literally & figuratively.
Haaaaa You have this brilliant magical knack of taking scary, hard and painful things about caregiving and our mental stress and normalising it into something we can SEE, understand and talk about! Thank you, Jodi! I've a stark page in my journal that reminds me of what works and what doesn't work for me to stay sane...in the early days of caregiving I still had a delusion that I could control/manage my way through things...there is SO MUCH that is out of our control when we're caring for someone, believing I could cope or think my way out of things was my delusion..
Movement (walk-run-walk), music, and making the most of time-outs to sleep and talk or cry (disconnecting the executive brain) help me. Big beautiful smart brains are fabulous, but they're also too good at deluding us that we can hero our way out of things, when we're only human!
sending big hugs Jodela P.S Even if it wasn't part of the main article 'Rip van Drunkle' made me Guffaw out loud!
Thank you dollface! I appreciate the laugh, we have to, right? Also, I love footnotes as side commentary. Thank you for the Jodela🩵, the love and the restack. And movement and music are playing a big part in keeping me sane these days. Disconnecting from my brain, well, that's a harder task.
Let us know how the next session goes, I’m kinda intrigued to hear what you look for in a therapist now. E.g. the tell tale signs that build trust or confidence…because I guess it wasn’t the flies ;-)
total leap of faith. when I realized how much resistance (not a gut instinct that it was wrong, but fear manifesting as arrogance and condescenion.—such an attractive trait!) I had, I knew I was headed in the right direction.
More brilliance and recovery from you. It always makes my day to read things that are honest. None of us can do this thing called life all alone, try as I might, for as many years as I've been here. Being in program has been life-changing (letting other people in) and after a lifetime of therapists with big and little breaks in between (from the good ones and the not so good ones) I've finally landed with someone I've done and am doing tremendous work with. I'm so glad you're giving yourself this support. That you're letting someone help you. And your friends can be a support too, right? Love this and you. Signed, your friend upstate, Nanela. AND, any time you want a change of scenery, come stay. My door is always open. Love you, Jodi.
Haaaaa You have this brilliant magical knack of taking scary, hard and painful things about caregiving and our mental stress and normalising it into something we can SEE, understand and talk about! Thank you, Jodi! I've a stark page in my journal that reminds me of what works and what doesn't work for me to stay sane...in the early days of caregiving I still had a delusion that I could control/manage my way through things...there is SO MUCH that is out of our control when we're caring for someone, believing I could cope or think my way out of things was my delusion..
Movement (walk-run-walk), music, and making the most of time-outs to sleep and talk or cry (disconnecting the executive brain) help me. Big beautiful smart brains are fabulous, but they're also too good at deluding us that we can hero our way out of things, when we're only human!
sending big hugs Jodela P.S Even if it wasn't part of the main article 'Rip van Drunkle' made me Guffaw out loud!
Thank you dollface! I appreciate the laugh, we have to, right? Also, I love footnotes as side commentary. Thank you for the Jodela🩵, the love and the restack. And movement and music are playing a big part in keeping me sane these days. Disconnecting from my brain, well, that's a harder task.
Let us know how the next session goes, I’m kinda intrigued to hear what you look for in a therapist now. E.g. the tell tale signs that build trust or confidence…because I guess it wasn’t the flies ;-)
total leap of faith. when I realized how much resistance (not a gut instinct that it was wrong, but fear manifesting as arrogance and condescenion.—such an attractive trait!) I had, I knew I was headed in the right direction.
More brilliance and recovery from you. It always makes my day to read things that are honest. None of us can do this thing called life all alone, try as I might, for as many years as I've been here. Being in program has been life-changing (letting other people in) and after a lifetime of therapists with big and little breaks in between (from the good ones and the not so good ones) I've finally landed with someone I've done and am doing tremendous work with. I'm so glad you're giving yourself this support. That you're letting someone help you. And your friends can be a support too, right? Love this and you. Signed, your friend upstate, Nanela. AND, any time you want a change of scenery, come stay. My door is always open. Love you, Jodi.
Thanks, babes. For the love, the support, and the restack. 🩵
Always.