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My Story Is All I Have To Offer
Me. Mom. Dementia. Drinky Drunky Sober Girl. Here I am, doing pretty much the only thing I’m qualified to do because I was a shite waitress.
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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We Don't Have The Luxury Of Old Resentments Anymore
Facing a family resentment, I realized I was stuck in the pain of 13-year-old me. The world is on fire, we need community, not isolation.
Nov 4
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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This Isn't The Life I’d Imagined, Thank Goodness
I did not see this life coming, not for one second. But If I'd gotten what I'd expected, I'd have shortchanged myself.
Oct 28
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As Sand is to Beach, Moments are to Life
I can let them slip away, or I can savor them. Plus, a small soundtrack, audio and a poll.
Oct 14
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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The Reason I'm Keeping Mom Home & The Truth About Antisemitism
Why I'm keeping Mom at home, preparing for the apocalypse, and what I'll do when the shit hits the fan.
Oct 1
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As Sand is to Beach, Moments are to Life
I can let them slip away, or I can savor them. Plus, a small soundtrack, audio and a poll.
Oct 14
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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The Reason I'm Keeping Mom Home & The Truth About Antisemitism
Why I'm keeping Mom at home, preparing for the apocalypse, and what I'll do when the shit hits the fan.
Oct 1
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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Dancing on a Fire Escape While my World Burns
I don’t want to write about any of it. I want to run away from home, the world and all its responsibilities.
Sep 23
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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How To Make God Laugh Today
Want to make God laugh? Tell him/her your plans. Her doctor said, “Starting thinking about plans for palliative care.” Not funny, God.
Aug 5
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She's Not Dead, So We're Buying New Things
Tracking Mom’s incredibly slow trudge towards the end by what we’ve bought, no longer use, or have given up on.
Jul 22
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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Photos: Mom Sleeps With Someone New Every Night
She's an equal opportunity cuddler. Also, a small birthday wish and a big subscription discount!
Jul 8
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Do I Keep Feeding the Empty Shell of my Mother?
Sep 7, 2024
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My Neighbor Collapsed
Jul 2, 2024
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She's Not Dead, So We're Buying New Things
Jul 22
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Recognizing Trauma Responses: A Lesson in Compassion
Mar 4
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Shove This In Your Pie Hole...
Feb 18
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Grey Gardens 11372
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As Sand is to Beach, Moments are to Life
I can let them slip away, or I can savor them. Plus, a small soundtrack, audio and a poll.
Oct 14
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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The Things She Said When She Still Said Things
Ma had no filter, no internal editor way before dementia. If you were within earshot, you were a target...and if you were fat, well, you were a larger…
Jun 10
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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A Mother's Advice: How to Remain a Virgin
95 & still using the same gimmick to get her way
Feb 25
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The Loneliness of Shame, Secrets, and Lies
Daddy was, among other things, a liar. It was one of his defining, and actually kind of endearing characteristics. He’d lied about almost everything…
Sep 9
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Surprise! A Mother's Day Post: If It’s Not One Thing, It’s Your Mother
An oldie, in honor of my never say die, Ma. Mother's Day, 2009.
May 10
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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Family Games—Was it Bad Parenting or Clever Life Lessons?
My parents' idea of fun bordered on child endangerment.
Feb 11
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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Laughter: Warms the old Cockles
A love note to the mundane things, the every day nothings that connect us to each other forever.
Jan 28
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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This. That. And Me.
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We Don't Have The Luxury Of Old Resentments Anymore
Facing a family resentment, I realized I was stuck in the pain of 13-year-old me. The world is on fire, we need community, not isolation.
Nov 4
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Jodi Sh. Doff
28
18
This Isn't The Life I’d Imagined, Thank Goodness
I did not see this life coming, not for one second. But If I'd gotten what I'd expected, I'd have shortchanged myself.
Oct 28
27
35
Dancing on a Fire Escape While my World Burns
I don’t want to write about any of it. I want to run away from home, the world and all its responsibilities.
Sep 23
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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The Loneliness of Shame, Secrets, and Lies
Daddy was, among other things, a liar. It was one of his defining, and actually kind of endearing characteristics. He’d lied about almost everything…
Sep 9
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The Shame of Being Lonely
I didn’t know it, but loneliness was a major force behind a lot of my life choices. Even if I had known, I'd have been to ashamed to say, I’m lonely…
Sep 2
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The Truth About Anger: How it Saved Me
Then it left me empty and numb
Aug 19
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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The Challenge Of Understanding A Life I Can't Remember
I triangulate befores & afters from evidence of a life, but I'm more Yin/Yang than that.
Jun 17
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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Finding The Secrets I Kept From Myself
Having blindly rewritten my own history to hide evidence of vulnerability, I don't know who I am. I'm an evidence-based archeological dig of dinosaur…
May 20
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Jodi Sh. Doff
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